Breakups are difficult and leave you feeling emotionally exhausted
Breakups are difficult and leave you feeling emotionally exhausted. One way to minimize this is to break off all contact with your ex, so that you can take the necessary time to focus on healing yourself, without painful distractions creeping in. Of course, completely breaking off contact may not be possible if you run into your ex in a social setting, or work with him or her, but if you can cut off all contact, do it. Realize that no contact means nothing: you can’t make phone calls or send emails or text messages. You will not win back an ex like that. If you try to contact your ex, you are likely to start begging him or her to meet with you or move back in, but it would be a big mistake. Instead, your goal is to act like you don’t care about losing the relationship, even though that’s not the way you really feel. You don’t want to spend any of your energy obsessing about what your ex is doing; you want to be focused on getting rid of all of your negative energy. Admittedly, totally cutting off your ex sounds extreme, but it is doable, and it will help you realize the finality of the split with your ex, so that you can move on with your life.
